Intimacy is yours when having an honest relationship with yourself. Intimacy feels elusive when we are not honest with ourselves or each other. We are not always aware when we are lying to ourselves when we are busy pretending.   Developing a real self is being honest with ourselves. We are alive at a time…

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Understanding relationships Best therapeutic practice is informed by attachment theory in repairing attachment wounds. These wounds stem from the way we are looked after by our caregivers. Defining Attachment John Bowlby famous psychologist defined attachment “as being a strong affectional tie that binds a person to an intimate companion.” Attachment patterns We develop attachment patterns…

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What is a boundary? Healthy boundaries define a line or limit to what we are responsible for and how we will allow others to treat us. Having healthy boundaries involves being able to say ‘no’ respectfully when necessary, and accepting ‘no’ from other people. Healthy boundaries are reciprocally implemented when respecting your own, and another…

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Resources are significant to us to be able to live well Resources help you participate in life to reach your full potential. Resources enable a client to participate in life using their full potential.  Resources are anything that enhances the quality of our lives and relieves us from difficult circumstances, writes Pat Ogden (Ogden, P.,…

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What is self-regulation? Self-regulation is a flexible way of knowing and understanding our body and mind.  Self-regulation is the ability to monitor and have control of our thoughts, emotions, behaviour and impulses.  Self-regulation helps us experience and express our emotions.  It provides us with the confidence to alter our self-expression with other people in any…

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Expressing blocked emotions enables improved relationships with oneself and others Expressing blocked emotions reminds us of our unity with other human beings.   An emotion is the body’s reaction to a thought our mind has about a situation.  Emotions are reactions to matters that seem very important to our well-being.  First we filter our experiences…

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Work with narcissistic behaviours and find your true self It is not unusual for us either to demonstrate narcissistic behaviours, or to know people that do, and behave in ways that limit emotional intimacy. What are narcissistic behaviours? Narcissistic behaviours may include a person lacking empathy, being self absorbed, manipulating, and exploiting or using others. …

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Addiction free enhances your health and relationships Living addiction free is a life long process. Addictions are common in our modern world where we look for instant gratification. Addictions can consist of technology, shopping, work, gambling, pornography, alcohol, drugs and food. Addiction is a short term solution to managing pain Humans turn to addiction to…

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Build resources and strengthen your ability to overcome trauma memories People need to build resources when they are  struggling with trauma.  They need assistance in feeling resourced before they can understand and integrate a traumatic memory.  The trauma memory is something that needs to be worked with but only after the client is resourced and…

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Hakomi psychotherapy is a therapy that is grounded in mindfulness Mindfulness is a felt sense it is a way of focusing on the present moment to what is happening within the body and mind.  We work with a person’s belief system to help them shift into a new experience. Research has found that during the…

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