Hakomi psychotherapy is a therapy that is grounded in mindfulness
Mindfulness is a felt sense it is a way of focusing on the present moment to what is happening within the body and mind. We work with a person’s belief system to help them shift into a new experience.
Research has found that during the day and night 90% of the time we are having the same thoughts over and over again. Our thoughts are confirmed through our experiences with people, such as feeling hurt or abandoned.
Mindfulness of our core organisers
In order to have a new thought such as feeling loveable we need to create a new experience through our perceptions.
Core organisers are our thoughts, feelings, body movements and sensations. This includes our 5 sense perceptions, sight, taste, sound, smell, and touch.
A person needs to feel safe enough to feel the warmth from another person to be able to feel the connection with them. Then this can become a reality for them, an experience and not just an idea. The process involves being aware and mindful of one’s felt body experience.
A person needs to be able to come out of their family of origin trance where they developed an ingrained family script. What helps is to become curious enough of these beliefs to be able to take in new information.
Mindfulness is an essential therapeutic tool
Mindfulness and tracking one’s own state is being able to be with how things are naturally in a wakeful and alert state. It is not about changing yourself in as much as witnessing yourself and gaining a new relationship with yourself where you do not have to be your past family story, you can be a fresh, awake and alert person to this new moment. You can become curious about how you organise yourself and construct your reality. You cannot shift yourself if you do not change your perceptions.
Safe therapeutic container
Hakomi psychotherapy understands the importance of bite sizing information in the context of a safe therapeutic relationship so that you can be with what is. Just notice, notice without judging, what is going on in your experience, pay attention to your internal landscape, and what wants to be invited. Don’t expect anything to happen, and it helps to drop an agenda. Always go with the client’s experience and hang out with the client’s resistance or confusion. Here the client’s brilliant wisdom can sparkle through.