Staying Close To Our Truth Is Transformative

Staying Close To Our Truth Is Transformative

In Therapy we need to stay close to our truth to be able to heal and grow into better people.

Fertile ground for growth is sitting in a place of uncertainty.   To sit in uncertainty we need the Buddhist’s philosophy as a guide to sit with uncertainty called a ‘beginners mind’.

We embrace the art of not knowing when we hold our hypotheses lightly in being ready to say when we are wrong and are ready to let go what we just thought and said and wait for something closer to our truth to arrive at the forefront of one’s mind.

An inspiring poem to sit with and read as we understand the process of staying close to our truth was written by Mary Oliver in 2005 called “Bone”, the poem says as follows:

“I believe I will never quite know though I play at the edges of knowing truly I know our part is not knowing but looking, and touching, and loving which is the way I walked on softly through the pale – pink morning light.”

Why Therapy Works

In therapy what is truly rewarding and transformative is that we do know our truth.

We can know our truth when we resonate with words spoken and emotions felt, and we become conscious of who we are and who we want to become.   We arrive in our truth in a very immediate way when the therapist helps us to speak directly from our experience.   This is why therapy is such a powerful vehicle for change and growth to happen.  It is an uplifting moment in time when we suddenly know our truth because when we know it, we can feel it and see it and there is a spiritual beauty and power in arriving in our truth.

Understanding Ourselves

Coming to understand who we are, helps us to be who we truly are, to meet others more fully, and feel love in turn, to feel safe and alive.   We need understanding to love, grow and heal.

Consulting with a therapist who affirms and accepts us, enables us to explore our relationship patterns and wounds so that we can salvage them, instead of run from dysfunctional ways of relating.

How Healing Happens

Healing occurs via limbic resonance where we intuitively feel each other’s heart rhythms, hear tone of voice, see facial cues and body postures and listen for the content of words spoken to understand our truth.   The therapist skillfully holds us emotionally and energetically to feel safe to feel vulnerable enough to touch into our true selves.

In 1965 world renowned paediatrician Donald Winnicott said a facilitating environment is a ‘holding environment’ which means we belong and feel accepted by the person listening to us who is our therapist.   We need full understanding and love to grow and heal.   I wish you a wonderful healing journey along the way.

Reference: Author: Marilyn Morgan, Book: The Alchemy of Love; Personal Growth Journeys in Psychotherapy Training; 2008